Sunday, May 24, 2020

Feeling That Motherhood Isn't For You?

Hey there, Bitchy Readers!

If you have a feeling that motherhood isn't for you, listen to it. Explore it! 

And check out my new series called Childfreeness with LeNora Faye.  
I took a hiatus to focus on the Childfree Girls web series and podcast I co-created. But now I'm back with a lighthearted, snack-able series for The Bitchy Bookkeeper Instagram & YouTube Channel. I'll also be posting the videos and transcriptions here on the blog. 
Note: The videos are fun and catchy, so it's preferable to watch over reading transcripts, but I want this accessible to everyone. 

Below is the transcription from episode 1-The Childfree Lifestyle. 
          (Intro music) 

It’s hard when you’re 20 years old and you feel strongly that parenthood isn’t for you. And yes, you don’t have anything figured out at 20 but you just know that ‘I’m not going to pursue relationships with the intention of finding a father or a mother for my child’, right? 
 I would have loved to have had this conversation when I was young, you know, with somebody who didn’t want to have kids and chose not to.  
Can we teach this in schools? Sign me up!
I’m available. I’ll travel everywhere. I mean, when the borders reopen. I’m available on Zoom. 
I’m not here to tell people not to have kids. If you want them, have them. Think about it first, but have them.
There are enough parenting things out there for people but there’s not a ton of content for childfree people. And one childfree account is not a one-size-fits-all. 
There are people who don’t resonate with my message and how I live my life, even though they are childfree. Just as I am not for everybody and that’s cool. I am for some people so I’m trying to reach as many “some peoples” as I can.
Should I talk about how I blocked this lady from church (when I used to go to church)? For two years, she’ been leaving these passive-aggressive comments on my social media and sending me DMs saying: 
“You shouldn’t be talking about being childfree and happy.” 
I think it’s funny when people say: 
“I can’t wait for your generation to die out because then my child is not going to have to grow up listening to this bullshit of being childfree.” 
Well, I hate to tell you this but the childfree community spans many generations and it’s not going anywhere. We are more vocal than ever and ten years from now this is going to be normal. 
I hope. 
I’m not saying that it’s going to stop people from having kids because if you look at any celebrity news magazine, every celebrity is giving birth right now. 
I have great hopes for the childhood future, not just for mine but for other people. Anyone my age or younger, I think this is a great time to explore. I mean if you think about it, we’re living like the most bizarre time ever.  
There’s a pandemic happening! 
Anyone who wants to start a blog or is thinking about starting a blog and you have no audience and you really don’t know what to say, just start writing. That’s how I was a couple of years ago. It takes a while to find your voice and to say the things you want to say in a manner that suits you best. 
Honestly, I am nowhere near where I want to be in being able to voice how I feel and being able to voice my hope and even just sharing my stories. When I’m 50, I want to be totally kick-ass at expressing my childfree self. 
Seriously, I’m excited about 50. I’ve got 13 years until I’m 50. 
No, wait, OMG. 13 years until I’m 50 years old??? 
Oh well, look at JLo. She looks amazing. I have to stop eating sugar. 
Wow, there’s nothing like finding out how old you really are. I don’t feel my age and that’s okay. Whatever. 
It’s important to remember that this is your life and you know not everyone’s going to agree with how you live. 
You could have all of the kids that you could possibly have to satisfy society’s expectation of you, but if your happiness isn’t there, what’s the point?
         (End music)


And there you have it, Bitchy Readers (Bitchy Viewers). The premiere episode of Childfreeness with LeNora Faye. It's been a busy few months, pandemic aside. My Childfree Girls co-hosts and I expanded our web series to include a podcast, and I started wearing wigs in videos. To become more at ease with being on camera. Over the years, I've amassed an assortement of wigs for fun but they were collecting dust in my closet. So now, The Bitchy Bookkeeper wears wigs in photos and videos. Episodes 2 & 3 are out now on The Bitchy Bookkeeper YouTube channel but I will be posting them on the blog next week. Stay tuned! 

Chat soon, 

LeNora Faye
The Bitchy Bookkeeper
Co-host of Childfree Girls
Author of Childfree Journals

Guest childfree blog posts submissions can be sent to INFO at LENORAFAYE dot com